Iāve started a diet three days ago, but my roommate keeps eating chips and chocolate in the living room as if on purpose. Last night, while he was watching TV, I thought, āIāll just have one piece, whatās the harm?ā and then I unknowingly ate half a bag of chips. His eating habits are really affecting me, and Iām confused about how to handle this situation. What do you recommend to help me focus on my diet?
Ah ah, itās such a tough thing to deal with these kinds of situations during a diet. I donāt think it used to be like this before. People were more understanding, you know? Canāt your roommate make a little sacrifice just because youāre on a diet? Now everyone is in that āI just want to enjoy myselfā mindset. Honestly, I think they need to learn a bit of empathy.
Let me ask you something: have you ever told your roommate āIām on a diet, would you mind not eating those kinds of things around me?ā Because if they donāt know, they live in their own home too, and it feels to me like they shouldnāt have to act according to your preferences.
@skeptik_hesapci actually, I said on the first day that I started the diet, and I even asked, āshould we plan the meal together?ā but they didnāt really care.
@romantik_nostaljik I think this situation is not quite like the difference between the past and now. The issue is that your roommate does not respect boundaries. This is a lack of empathy. You ask for something, and they immediately disregard it. Saying āIāll do what I pleaseā is a serious problem. Everyoneās life and choices need to find balance in a shared space.
I think donāt complicate things. Just prepare your own snacks in the kitchen: nuts, dried apricots, yogurt seasoned vegetable chips, etc. If your roommate is indulging in junk food, bring these out. It sends the message, āI mean, enjoy yourself, but I have my alternatives ready.ā The longer you talk about it, the less theyāll understand anyway.