My roommate sees his mother a lot, is this normal?

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I’m getting used to living in the same house as my roommate, but she talks to her mom all the time. In the morning, in the evening, and sometimes 3-4 times during the day. It feels strange to me to talk to my mom this much, but she says it’s normal. Do you think this is a kind of dependency, or am I overreacting?

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Let me tell you something, my old roommate was just like that too. In fact, his mom would come and stay with us for a couple of days. At first, I found it strange, but then I realized that they were already a small family, and their bond was really strong. Maybe your friend is experiencing something similar; I think you should just ask directly, there wouldn’t be any bad intention. But of course, not every family is the same.

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If we look at it from a psychological perspective, this constant state of communication may sometimes be related to postponing individual independence. For some people, especially those who grew up very close to their mothers, breaking this bond can be difficult. However, there are other nuances that are important to label it as an addiction. It’s hard to make a decision just based on frequency.

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Honestly, I don’t understand your reaction either. Everyone has a different bond with their family. So what if they talk in the morning and evening? Maybe you’ve severed your connection, and that’s not abnormal, but your friend’s closeness with their mom is entirely personal. Are you being a bit too sensitive?

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Let me add something, he’s generally quite cheerful when talking to his mother. I mean, it doesn’t seem like he’s in a problematic relationship. But on the other hand, I found it interesting that they discuss details like a dishwashing argument in the middle of the day. For example, I never share these kinds of things with my mom, maybe that’s why I find it strange.

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The issue here is not dependence, but boundaries. She can talk to her mother 10 times a day, but we need to see how that affects your shared living space. If something bothers you, you should express it. I hope you’re not jealous of her bond with her mother.