My roommate posts everything about us on their story

I would say that I get along very well with my roommate, but there’s one strange habit he has… He posts everything we do to his story. I mean, from our breakfast in the morning to our TV time at night, I’ve even noticed he secretly takes pictures and shares them while I’m tidying up my room. If I say, ā€˜There’s something called privacy,’ he gets defensive. On one hand, everyone sees things I don’t even share with my family, and on the other hand, I don’t want to hurt my friend’s feelings. Do you think I’m right, or am I overreacting?

I’ve experienced the same thing. At first, I wasn’t bothered when my roommate shared everything, but it escalated to sharing my private moments. I tried to explain it nicely, and when that didn’t work, I directly said, ā€˜Look, I don’t want this; it’s bothering me.’ Since that day, they stopped. I think you should communicate clearly.

I think you should seriously put this on the table. Be clear by saying, ā€˜I don’t want you to post stories, this is my life and you’re taking control away from me.’ If they still don’t understand and you notice they’re crossed, just delete them directly. :flushed_face:

The perception of privacy is linked to people’s ability to set boundaries. It’s your friend’s choice not to find this uncomfortable, but if you feel differently, you have the right to express that. The main issue here is the clarification of mutual boundaries. If it grows to the extent that you need to consult a professional, you can also seek support regarding personal space.

I think being so sensitive is a bit much. We’re in the age of social media after all, your friend probably isn’t doing this with bad intentions. Plus, if you’re that bothered, why are you silencing them by saying they’re ā€œentering the tribeā€? It’s turning into drama instead of having fun together :grimacing:

I just realized that it’s not just about posting stories; for instance, it also goes into detail about conversations with others. It’s not malicious, but I don’t know why they feel the need to announce everything; it’s exhausting me. I thought I should be prepared before we talk.

I think you should try being passive-aggressive. Start posting different stories and include things that imply you no longer have your privacy because of them. Maybe this way they’ll get the message and let go. Directly confronting them feels difficult to me.

I think there’s something else going on. For example, it could be that they are jealous of you or trying to show others something like ā€˜look how colorful my life is.’ Do they love you in a complicated way?

Oh my girl, can such things happen in this day and age? If my roommate did something like that, I wouldn’t even let them in. People don’t talk about their friends being transparent in the neighborhood, they go and tell about your virginity or whatever. Seriously, speak properly, or else others will talk about you.

This is officially a violation of boundaries. No one has the right to share your private moments as long as you don’t allow it. If they continue after you’ve said you don’t want it, that’s completely egocentric behavior. Just because you’re friends doesn’t mean they can disregard your consent.