I would say that I get along very well with my roommate, but thereās one strange habit he has⦠He posts everything we do to his story. I mean, from our breakfast in the morning to our TV time at night, Iāve even noticed he secretly takes pictures and shares them while Iām tidying up my room. If I say, āThereās something called privacy,ā he gets defensive. On one hand, everyone sees things I donāt even share with my family, and on the other hand, I donāt want to hurt my friendās feelings. Do you think Iām right, or am I overreacting?
Iāve experienced the same thing. At first, I wasnāt bothered when my roommate shared everything, but it escalated to sharing my private moments. I tried to explain it nicely, and when that didnāt work, I directly said, āLook, I donāt want this; itās bothering me.ā Since that day, they stopped. I think you should communicate clearly.
I think you should seriously put this on the table. Be clear by saying, āI donāt want you to post stories, this is my life and youāre taking control away from me.ā If they still donāt understand and you notice theyāre crossed, just delete them directly. ![]()
The perception of privacy is linked to peopleās ability to set boundaries. Itās your friendās choice not to find this uncomfortable, but if you feel differently, you have the right to express that. The main issue here is the clarification of mutual boundaries. If it grows to the extent that you need to consult a professional, you can also seek support regarding personal space.
I think being so sensitive is a bit much. Weāre in the age of social media after all, your friend probably isnāt doing this with bad intentions. Plus, if youāre that bothered, why are you silencing them by saying theyāre āentering the tribeā? Itās turning into drama instead of having fun together ![]()
I just realized that itās not just about posting stories; for instance, it also goes into detail about conversations with others. Itās not malicious, but I donāt know why they feel the need to announce everything; itās exhausting me. I thought I should be prepared before we talk.
I think you should try being passive-aggressive. Start posting different stories and include things that imply you no longer have your privacy because of them. Maybe this way theyāll get the message and let go. Directly confronting them feels difficult to me.
I think thereās something else going on. For example, it could be that they are jealous of you or trying to show others something like ālook how colorful my life is.ā Do they love you in a complicated way?
Oh my girl, can such things happen in this day and age? If my roommate did something like that, I wouldnāt even let them in. People donāt talk about their friends being transparent in the neighborhood, they go and tell about your virginity or whatever. Seriously, speak properly, or else others will talk about you.
This is officially a violation of boundaries. No one has the right to share your private moments as long as you donāt allow it. If they continue after youāve said you donāt want it, thatās completely egocentric behavior. Just because youāre friends doesnāt mean they can disregard your consent.