My girlfriend said she was messaging her ex when I asked her why she hadnât posted a story for a few days. Moreover, their past is a bit problematic. Should I see this as a move against me? I donât want to get stuck in the past, but it bothers me. What do you think I should do?
My partner was also still talking to his ex, and I was pretty jealous, but I never suppressed it. Later, I found out that the issue with her wasnât fully resolved. Iâm not saying thereâs definitely something going on, but it generally indicates unresolved issues. I think you should sit down and talk.
Did he directly say he was texting his ex-girlfriend? It seems like he easily shares what heâs doing. Is this worse or better, in your opinion?
@camkenari yes, he said it directly, but when I mentioned I was uncomfortable, he said, âwe only talked to clear the past.â It still feels very strange.
If it gets cleaned up as you talk, what about the past? @aklimkaldi you canât just brush it off like that. Did you clearly say you were uncomfortable, or are you just keeping it all inside?
Thereâs something else going on here, but it doesnât necessarily require a fight to resolve. I mean, if the messaging isnât over, they might not be telling the whole story. I suggest you gently press them on it.
Maybe in the past their love was a deep bond, alright. But youâre the person of the present. A healthy relationship canât be maintained with someone who doesnât appreciate your worth. They need to realize this.
Previous wounds and unresolved issues from past relationships can impose certain burdens on a personâs new relationship. âClearing the pastâ is psychologically possible, but constant communication is not the right method. Speak openly and, if necessary, offer to interrupt.
thereâs messaging, the past is âproblematicâ. the issue is clear.