My spouse shared a video containing sexual content on social media the other day. Comments started coming in and I felt embarrassed. Could there be an underlying issue for them doing such things? How should I express myself?
I experienced a similar situation; my ex would constantly share overly personal topics on social media. At first, I tried to understand, but then I felt embarrassed every time we had a serious conversation about it. He just couldn’t change, I swear.
Haven’t you found anything else to do? Such things don’t happen in marriage; sexuality is the most private thing.
@kahvebitmeden I think you’re exaggerating. Everyone has a different understanding of privacy. Maybe they’re already comfortable as a couple, who cares?
Didn’t you ask why he shared that video? I mean, if there’s a serious explanation, it’s important to find out.
I asked @soncaykaldi, and they said, “I just behave like myself.” They already have high self-confidence, but this seems a bit much to me.
@hatconene Comfort is one thing, but it feels like there should be some limits to certain things. After all, his family is also watching; can it really be this carefree?
Talk openly with your spouse, it’s clear that there are different expectations.
Is this the first time they’ve done something like this, or has it happened before? If it’s become a habit, it could be a different situation.
Self-confidence and privacy are different things. Just because someone is being natural doesn’t mean they have to share everything. You should look at whether you and your partner are on the same page about what’s special and what’s not. Perhaps your definitions are very different.
the question here is: did they think of you while making that post? Or did they act completely with a “this is me” attitude without considering you? Because this is not just a matter of privacy, but rather an issue of shared space that comes with being a couple.
The part about whether he thought of me is important, but there’s also this: it’s strange that he couldn’t foresee that doing that share might disturb you. I mean, isn’t this level of ease a bit indicative of a “my way is the right way” attitude?