After our wedding, my mother-in-law took my jewelry, saying, “It’s risky for the gold to stay at home, let it stay with me.” I didn’t say anything at that time, but now a year has passed, and she still hasn’t returned it. I feel hesitant to ask for it back because I feel like it will ruin our relationship. My spouse also seems to be caught in the middle and says nothing. How should I handle a situation like this?
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6it happened to me too, he stubbornly didn’t return it for 2 years. then I had a fight with my spouse, and I forced him to admit that he needed to say it. in my opinion, lay the blame on your spouse, have him say it to his mother clearly.
So how much gold is there? For example, is it a large amount? Maybe that’s why you’re hesitant.
@cokdaseyapma actually, there are some mother’s jewelry and a couple of bracelets, they’re not very big but after all, they are mine.
@soncaykaldi I think putting pressure on him is a bad idea; if his relationship with his mother gets strained, you’ll be the one paying the price. I believe you should try being gentle first.
to be honest, family mediation can be a bit challenging in such situations. it’s healthier to have a conversation together as a couple with your partner first. making a direct request from your side may lead the other party to become defensive 
I think you should stay quiet; things like this always get worse. I suggest you don’t ruin your relationship with your mother-in-law. 