My mother-in-law constantly criticizes me on my social media accounts. She doesn’t hesitate to do this at all. She doesn’t like any of my posts and always leaves negative comments. I’m having a hard time understanding why she behaves this way. I feel like I need to say something to her too, but how should I approach it?
My former colleague’s mother-in-law was like that too. She had something to say about every story, a comment on every picture. The woman was literally feeding off criticism. My friend couldn’t hold back and said it to her face, and the woman backed off a little. But I can’t say she wasn’t hurt either.
Are you sure this woman is criticizing you on social media? Maybe she’s writing in a way that seems like a dig, but her intentions might be different. Do her words directly touch you?
@kahvebitmeden yes, they are directly writing to me, and their comments are also appearing on posts that are public on my profile. Usually, what they say is along the lines of ‘why are you sharing such ridiculous things?’ or ‘this is not a gossip show.’
@biseydiycem not everyone is obliged to talk all casual like they’re your friend. If these things could be solved with confrontation, how nice would that be? I think instead of talking, you should just increase the distance; their intention is already to throw shade.
In such situations, open communication is important, but if the atmosphere is tense, it can be more constructive to talk face-to-face with someone who is expressing themselves on social media. Even saying, ‘You’re upsetting me, why are you doing this?’ can be effective.
@benbisorayim yes, I am actually considering talking face-to-face, but I am also afraid that he won’t understand. In that case, I worry he will come at me even more.
@aklimkaldi if you’re worried, will it go on like this forever? If you’re scared and saying nothing, they’re already winning. Be clear about it once; otherwise, you won’t be able to get out of it.
You talk and move on, no need to exaggerate.
If you’re using a public account on social media, have you tried turning off comments? You don’t necessarily have to be an open target there. People like that will continue as long as they find a platform. Close that channel, and you can connect elsewhere.
Let’s say you closed the comments, they can reach out from somewhere else. The issue isn’t social media; it’s the fact that they are directly targeting you. Why are they pursuing you so much, what’s their problem? You need to look into that.