My mother-in-law was at our place the other evening. After dinner, I was cleaning up the dishes when she got up and looked at them, saying, âIf you wash them like this, theyâll get scratched right away.â She even tried to hand me a different sponge. I thought she meant well, but in the end, itâs my home. Was it disrespectful to express this? Or how much longer should I stay silent?
I would say donât dwell on this, thatâs how adults are. My mom used to do the same things, sheâd hear me with one ear and let it go out the other. Otherwise, youâd lose your mind.
What number visit was this? Has it been this chaotic before?
@camkenari this isnât the first time, it happens occasionally. Sometimes they also correct recipes and such, but they havenât really done anything like this in the context of home matters before.
@kirmizikazak I donât think this is something that should be normalized. The seniority of everything can only offer opinions; thereâs no obligation to listen.
I thought it was something bigger when I read the title, but it just extended the sponge. These are all minor conflicts, no need to make it bigger 
If youâre struggling to cut off speech, I suggest talking to your mother-in-law in a gentle manner. Even saying, âI like to use my own methodsâ can sometimes be enough; if the intention is not bad, she will understand.
@benbisorayim if these things were that easy, everyone would already have solved them. Instead of teaching from here and there, why not try to show a little empathy?
he always used to meddle with my meals. one time I said nicely, âIâm learning too, Iâm getting used to it,â and since that day, he intervenes less. maybe you can also be polite but firm.
I think my job is done. I mean, your mother-in-law might be in the mindset of âIâm showing the right technique,â but itâs your home, your dishes. Excessive tolerance is also wrong 