Halam has been constantly bringing up the topic of weight lately. She says, ‘It would be good if you pay attention too.’ But I’m doing it for my health as well. How can I explain this to her? Has something like this happened to you?
It’s not a big deal, it’s not like it’s the end of the world. Don’t worry about it.
My aunt used to constantly criticize my food. One day, I just said, ‘You take care of your own food,’ and she was left speechless. Sometimes you just need to say it directly.
Is it normal for them to push this much? Is there any other tension between you?
@yazipsildim actually it’s always been like this. last time they jokingly said the number on the scale, I got really angry.
I don’t mean to misunderstand, but it feels like you haven’t reacted at all. I mean, if someone measured my weight and made a joke about it, I would get really upset.
Such constant criticism can be demoralizing, especially when it comes from close relatives. But the healthiest approach is to speak openly, saying “I’m paying attention to this issue and I don’t want your comments.”
@hatconene some people can’t say it very directly, and when it comes to family, the matter gets more complicated.
I think you should just give a firm answer and cut it off. Say, ‘Stop criticizing me, I feel better this way,’ and you’ll have made your point.
We also need to think about this a bit: Why does your aunt feel the need to do something like this? If she’s poking around the topic of weight so much, she might be trying to control you either out of her own sensitivity or for some other reason. These kinds of things, which seem directly like a joke but actually cross boundaries, usually don’t just stop suddenly. Is she trying to make her voice heard in different ways?