I moved out from my family and I am renting a house with a friend. But sometimes I’m struggling to make ends meet, and I ask my mom for support. My friend thinks this is wrong. Do you think it’s shameful, or should everyone take care of themselves?
I experienced something similar as well; when I was at university, I moved out of the dorm and went to live with a friend. My dad supported me for the first 6 months, I was too shy to ask, but what could I do? Then I got a part-time job, I didn’t quit completely but I reduced it. My advice to you is to consider getting a job, it doesn’t have to be full-time.
I think you should talk openly with your mother. It’s not inappropriate; just be clear about how long you’ll need support so that it’s clear. This way, both you and she will feel more at ease. For example, tell her that you want a temporary amount or a specific sum.
Did you ask your friend why they thought it was wrong? I mean, do they not get any help from their family? Or is something bothering them in your case?
Let me add this: My friend said he wasn’t getting support from his family, but it seems like his salary is enough on its own. It makes me feel a bit like he’s ‘irresponsible,’ which creates a bit of tension ![]()
Sweetheart, it wouldn’t be shameful for
I think he’s feeling jealous of his friend. Not everyone receives equal support from their family, for example. He might also think you’re too relaxed.
At that age, especially when separated from the family, a person naturally experiences some distress. But I think the real issue is that your mother supported you. Family is always there, but when someone else is by your side (like a friend, etc.), they see it as a situation to be ashamed of ![]()