Recently, my friends have been causing more stress than my familyâs expectations. Everyone keeps expecting something from me, and itâs driving me insane. I donât want to disappoint my family, but my friends are also in a tough spot. How should I balance this situation?
Iâve experienced this myself as well. When your friends are always expecting something from you, you end up tearing yourself apart, and your family on the other hand is like, âWhy are you exhausting yourself?â Youâre literally being crushed in between.
Peer pressure is one thing, but family should always come first, in my opinion. No one should take offense, but the ones who have been by your side throughout your life are clear, itâs a mistake to give too many concessions to friends.
@kahvebitmeden yours is pretty clichĂ© too. family is always by your side, we get it. but friends can really be essential, especially someone your age who understands what youâre going through.
What you need to do here is clear: learn to say no to someone. Speak openly and say something like, âIâm focused on these tasks right now, and I could use some support.â Otherwise, if you try to please both sides, nervous breakdowns are inevitable.
What do your friends expect from you, for example? Is it study notes, time, or money? If you give a bit more detail, we can understand the expectations more clearly.
@pazardandondum they are generally expecting time and help from me, and also expecting me to solve some things. But when my family says âdonât tire yourself outâ, I get really confused.
@aklimkaldi by the way, I donât think the âdonât exhaust yourselfâ advice coming from family is very well-intentioned; it feels a bit manipulative to me. I think you should consider how much distance you need to keep from whom in order to not wear yourself out.
Your friends need to learn to stop interrupting. Otherwise, it will always be like this.
Well, everyone really expects something from you.