Recently, my friend stopped talking to me because of a social media post. I don’t fully understand the situation, but I’m really torn up inside because we’re not speaking. Should I still be friends with someone like that, or should I admit my mistake and apologize?
Something similar happened to me last year. I shared something on my story sarcastically, and my friend took it personally and got upset. I talked it out and fixed things, but I thought to myself, how long can you be friends with someone who’s this sensitive?
It’s hard to comment without understanding what you shared and why it was so messed up. I mean, did she feel something serious about herself?
@kahvebitmeden it wasn’t actually directly about that, but I guess it touched on it. It had made me upset in front of others once before.
@biseydiycem but dude, it’s strange to poke at people with irony for no reason and then wonder why it happened. You need to clearly know what you’re talking about.
if the situation is completely misunderstood, you can try to speak clearly first. but if there’s another hidden reason, this kind of fragility is a problem. if talking doesn’t bring a solution, consider keeping your distance for your own health.
I think the issue isn’t that post, it’s something else. If there are such serious disruptions, it feels like there’s something going on beneath the surface.
If that’s what it takes for friendship to end, then there was never any friendship to begin with.
@aklimkaldi I think you should explain that first distortion issue from the beginning. Maybe something will come out of it.
try speaking, if it doesn’t work, leave it. it’s that simple.
It felt to me like they’ve been holding onto something since that first issue arose. Maybe back then, you couldn’t fully talk it out and resolve it. They might have used this sharing as an excuse to blow up; without opening up and discussing it, it won’t be resolved.
These things sometimes blow up with something as a pretext, but sometimes what looks like a pretext is genuinely what someone is stuck on. For example, what was that post, and why did it touch so deeply? It can be worth looking into if any meaning can be derived from it.
Also, think about this: did he say something similar to you or you to him before this discussion? In other words, did this sharing issue possibly trigger a direct cycle? If there’s something accumulated, it could serve as an excuse to cut ties.
Sometimes people use arguments as an excuse to end a relationship they intended to finish anyway. Since they say they’ve “forgotten,” it doesn’t seem like they called or asked anything. The main issue could be whether they are ready to move on without looking back or not.