The other day I was looking at notifications on my girlfriendâs phone, and she had written something in a DM on a story. I opened it and read it. Her ex had posted a story, and she commented âyouâre very beautifulâ. I asked her about it, and she said, âitâs nothing, I just wrote it, donât read too much into it.â Am I wrong to think about this? It feels like sheâs treating me like a fool, but she claims she just wrote it for fun. What do you think should happen next?
7 Answers
7I think these kinds of things are a modern relationship disease. The fact that complimenting someone has become so easy and âmeaninglessâ is just ridiculous. If you say something playful to them and they respond seriously, they are either thoughtless or they donât respect you. Think of yourself first.
I was curious, is your boyfriend usually this relaxed? Does he casually flirt with everyone like this, or is he only laid-back with his ex? 
@iki_dakika actually doesnât have this habit very often; he is usually a quiet person, but this situation bothered me. There was also an issue related to his ex-girlfriend before, it was a small thing but it had stuck in my mind at that time too.
I was going to say, donât blow everything out of proportion here, but messaging an ex is a different story. If theyâre writing for fun, then thatâs a very strange understanding of âfun.â Itâs not normal among people who respect each other.
Maybe itâs just a compliment. In some old relationships, people act like that to avoid a bad ending. But how you feel is what matters. If youâre uncomfortable, cut off the conversation or ask them to be more straightforward.
Meaningless. The manâs excuse is even ridiculous. Donât just say it and move on.
@yazipsildim I disagree with this, sending a message doesnât necessarily imply something. Also, he already asked his girlfriend, and the guy answered clearly. Everyone is in mind-reading mode; I think everyone should chill a bit