Recently, my relatives are really butting into everything in my life. I’m fed up with comments like, ‘This job is not suitable for you’ and ‘Aren’t you thinking about getting married anymore?’ There’s especially one aunt of mine who wants to talk about my private life at every opportunity. When I stay silent, she says things like ‘Don’t be rude,’ and if I speak up, I end up being unnecessarily open. If I set my boundaries, what will people say? What’s the best way to handle this?
It’s so tiring that they interfere in your private life, especially when your aunt says things like, ‘you seem to be hiding something.’ Honestly, you should address this directly; you can say, ‘it’s not wrong for me to not want to share some things, I kindly ask you to understand this.’ Being clear is beneficial.
In such situations, setting your boundaries is a personal choice, but it’s also important for the health of the relationship. Clear boundaries help both parties feel more secure. You can approach the subject by softening it a bit, indicating that you understand she doesn’t have bad intentions. However, it’s essential to remain firm afterwards.
Just say it! Tell your aunt “I’m not really open to discussing my private life, so I don’t want to insist on this topic.” Not harsh, but firm. The more politely you say it, the more they get involved.
I’ve gotten a bit annoyed with those who say “just say it clearly.” Some people can pick up on things just from your eyebrows or eyes, but this woman is literally interrogating you. What does she mean by saying it clearly? It’s obvious she doesn’t understand.
Update: I seriously tried to have a conversation like this with my aunt. She acted like she was immediately offended and said, ‘I’m talking for your own good,’ and so on. It felt like things got even more tense. I didn’t know what to do. 
It’s so hard, you know? When someone says something like this, they just slap on a “for your own good” and that’s it. I even told my aunt the same thing once, and you end up tossing and turning in bed at night. When you don’t have any personal space left, it’s like you can’t breathe.
It might also be related to your attitude. If you don’t say anything but also don’t show a determined stance, people’s insistence increases. You need to say something that will make them not want to come near you again. But it seems like you’ve always been hesitant, as if you’re constantly thinking ‘what will they say.’
It’s a classic Turkish family. You try to set a boundary, and the whole clan makes a fuss. But remember, they usually do it out of concern, not with bad intentions. They’re a bit distant, but if you express it with love, it will be easier.