I can’t live my own life, you know? I had a relationship for 3 months, and my aunt keeps talking. She talks as if I should get married soon or questions as if she’s checking whether ‘that guy is decent’… It’s like she’s a detective; she’s even filled my mom’s head with stuff. No matter how much I try not to show it, I’m getting affected by it. How do you think I should set boundaries against this kind of family interference?
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7Your aunt has gotten a bit too involved, but such things are quite normal in families. My aunt used to do the same; she would say ‘let’s get acquainted’ to anyone I met. Once, I clearly told her, ‘I don’t want you to interfere in my relationship,’ and she was really offended, but in the end, she stopped meddling.
Honey, honestly, I think she’s doing you a favor. Look, is he really a decent kid? Your aunt isn’t saying this out of bad intentions. I mean, she’s experienced at that age and wants to protect you. Instead of trying to explain things to your mom, why not sit down and tell your aunt about your situation? 
But it’s clear that you’re a bit too sensitive as well. Why are you letting your aunt’s words affect you so much? You might not realize it, but sometimes an outsider can see things more clearly. Besides, these issues will be forgotten after a while anyway.
My issue here is not so much with relationships but with the lack of clear boundaries in the family. You need to determine where to say ‘no’ in which issues. Family elders may have seen it this way, so you can convince them through communication. You can consult family counseling centers.
Let me update you, I had a bit of an argument with my aunt the other day. It felt like the more we stayed quiet, the more complicated it got. When I got a bit tough, she said, ‘But I’m thinking of your best interests.’ When my mom gets caught in the
I think there might be something going on with your aunt here. She’s either really not happy with her own life or there’s some event from the past? If anyone could understand why she’s so concerned about you, it would be your mom. I think you should have a detailed talk with your mom; there must be something there 
You need to have a clear conversation to resolve this. You can tell your aunt, ‘This is my life, my choices.’ But in a calm tone. If she keeps interfering, maintain some distance for a while. Also, keep your mother out of it; don’t let her disrupt the relationship between you and your aunt.