When I’m feeling bored, when I argue with someone, or when I’m really happy, I find myself eating right away. I’m literally suppressing my emotional outbursts by eating. But recently I’ve realized that this habit could be something that stems from my childhood. My mom used to show her love by always saying, ‘Come on, have one more plate.’ Do you have a similar background? How can we resolve this issue?
My mom used to constantly say, ‘Look, eat this too, you’re too thin,’ when I was a kid. Now when I’m unhappy, I immediately turn to sweets. Honestly, this doesn’t just end with gaining weight; it feels like a person is punishing themselves with food. Just realizing this is already a start.
But let me be frank, it’s easy to blame the family, but everything can’t just be placed on them. I mean, you’re an adult now, if your bad habits are harmful to you, it’s up to you to change them. Childhood memories are one thing, but you are the one managing the present.
What you’re describing is a common situation in psychology known as ‘emotional eating.’ It’s often related to the ‘reward-punishment’ mindset established in childhood. However, there is a solution; recognizing this cycle and working with a dietitian or a therapist can be beneficial. If there are any nutritional deficiencies, those can be addressed as well.
You’re right, it might seem like I’m making excuses a bit. But you know, habits from childhood can sometimes bind your hands and feet. For example, my family still makes dessert after every argument at home, saying, ‘Let’s sit down and eat something.’ I don’t even know how I should react.
I think the best way to start here is with a dietitian or to get psychological support. For example, you could write down what to do when you are happy or sad and redirect yourself to other things. Also, talk openly with your family; have them ask you, ‘Am I really hungry, or am I eating because I’m thinking about something else?’