My parents are very opposed to the person I’m seeing because of their salary and job. According to them, this person cannot provide me with a “secure life.” But honestly, I trust their character and the love they have for me. I’m really struggling. Should financial conditions be a priority, or should love? What would you do?
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6To be honest, families’ economic concerns are generally not malicious. But what’s the real issue for you: is it the salary, or whether you are happy alongside it? If a peaceful and respectful relationship is what you seek, express this clearly to your family. After all, character is always a longer-term investment.
Yeah, that “he can’t provide you a safe life” issue really wears you out. When it happened to me, I constantly felt like I was trying to prove myself to his family. As soon as I woke up in the morning, those thoughts were swirling around in my head. Is yours a similar situation?
Do you think the salary and job are the main concerns? Or could your parents be hesitant about this person for another reason? Sometimes very superficial justifications are given, but in the background, there are things like culture and respect going on. I think you should try to talk openly with them.
It’s actually quite normal for families to have some reservations about this. Especially in today’s economic conditions, everyone is concerned about their standard of living. But I also think that salaries tend to fluctuate a bit. They say it’s hard to fully trust even a character, so you can’t trust a salary at all 
I always feel like one side acts a bit too romantically in situations like this. You tell the person in front of you that you trust in their love, but ask yourself this: Can you really live with them under any circumstances? Or could your family be right?
Yes, actually, they said something like I don’t really have a problem with the salary alone. They think a bit like “you can find something better.” But if I get stuck with this thought, I won’t be able to accept anyone for a lifetime.